Dear Spicy

Advice From the Homeless....  

I got an e-mail from "I can't believe it". She says:

I met this guy some time ago. He was really great in every way. We started spending a lot of time together. He would usually stay at my house at night after we went out. Well, everything was going fine but I did notice several things I just thought were not normal. He never invited me over to his place. He would always have me drop him off at a local pub and he would say he would call me later, or meet me somewhere.

I thought he lived with a girl and he just didn't want to let me know. Well things between us started to really heat up. We saw more and more of each other but still he never told me where he lived or invited me over. I started to get really curious so one day I followed him. He went to a street that was a dead end. Then he just walked right into the woods and he didn't come out. I thought he might be cutting through the wooded area to get to his house. I waited for what seemed like a really long time then I finally followed the path he had taken.

I walked for a while until I came to a clearing with some tents and trash scattered all around. Well to make a long story short my "boyfriend" came out of one of the tents. He was really surprised to see me. When I ask him what was up he replied that he lived there. He was just resting up for our night out that evening. My "boyfriend" lives in the woods. I thought he was a salesperson. He said he worked with the public. He never said he made a living holding up a sign in high traffic areas. It turns out the sign he holds up says he wants money for drinks and people seem to give him cash.

The worst part is that he is perfectly happy making money by holding up a sign. He says he makes enough to by drinks for himself and his friends and he plans to continue with his current line of work. I don't  know what to do. I thought I liked this guy but now I can't believe it.

Dear "I can't believe it"

You have certainly come to the right place for advice. Your problem seems to have quite a simple solution. Sure your boyfriend has been lying to you the entire time you have known him. What could he have done? Would you date him if he had been truthful? It seems his job skills might be a bit lacking and his hygiene could be in question, though that hasn't bothered you yet.

It is my professional opinion and in this case I actually am a professional, that your man is quite the success. He seems to be at the top of his game. He has plenty of cash for drinks and you haven't seen through his salesman facade. What is the problem. This guy should be a gold metal winner in the homeless Olympics.

I just have one question for you. Where does he go to hold up his sign?

Feel free to ask Spicy anything you need an answer to.

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